Cool mom...good or bad

Being a mother is a hard work. A job that does not have salary; or gives promotions. A job that requires attention, 24 hours a day with no day off. Recalling the times when we were still young, we remember our very own mothers how strict they were, how they treated us and how they made decisions for us. I, myself, experienced this but I did not complain. I love my mom and cold have done anything better without her. A mother can inspire you and be the wind beneath your wings as what Bette Midler’s song with the same title. As time and technology prospers, mothers nowadays also work; either in an office or in other industry. What others do not know, a working mom is twice as hard rather than being a home mother. You have to balance work and house responsibilities. Oftentimes a working mom does not even have a single time to spare for herself. Thus her relationship with her husband sometimes is affected. But that’s another story. One characteristic of a working mom

and a modern day mom is being cool in which I find it nice. Others may not believe this but children can also benefit from a cool mother. I am not saying that full time moms are not good but being a cool mom makes your kids more open to you. They would not be afraid to tell you what they are up to and what they think. I think that this can be a start for an open relationship between a mom and her child. I believe that juvenile delinquency would lower down if only mothers would take time to listen to these young adults. Show them how they really care about, empathize with them and make them understand the real world. I do not agree with mothers who think that their children are still young and could not decide what to do or what do they want. I am also a mother. I let my kids decide (under my guidance of course), let them speak for themselves or what do they have to say. It’s like teaching them on how to be responsible and take things at a time. Simple words of encouragement are needed to boost these young adults’ confidence and letting them learn of one individual’s responsibility. I think being a cool mom is fantastic. Being able to reach to your child and share their thoughts is one of the reasons why most teenagers hang out with their friends and share their problems. They think that they can tell everything to their friends. But do you think friends can help them most of the time? No. The only person available is their parents. Be cool, be their friend. With that, you know that your relationship would be deeper and trust would be clearer.

Finding True Friends

Friends are the people who accepted you for whoever you are and not for who you are or what you can offer. A person or a circle of people that has been with you through your life’s ups and downs. Celebrated your success, cried when you were depressed, shared all the happenings in your life.

Friends can make or break you. I agree. Sometimes it is hard to find a true friend. In this challenging world that we live in, seeking a true person is almost next to impossible. I would say that locating that person is like looking for a needle in a hay. Experience wise, you cannot tell a person if they are your true friends or not. Only time can tell and test that person if they are really a true friend.

I remember one time in my life of finding people that I thought were true. They were with me through my ups and downs. Shared my happiness, cried tears with me and encouraged me to stay on top. I thought that at last I was able to find these precious gems. I was wrong, all the while I never knew that all was just a show. Friends for benefits, that’s what I called them. I never believed that these guys can actually ruin me after the time that we spent together which I called the “trying times”. Now, I was able to move on and accepted that really time can tell if a person can be true.

Friendship does not need to expect something in return, just like love, being a friend is unconditional. Just being there to your friend, showing support and encourage a person when down is just one of the things a true friend can be. Friendship does not contain any price, nor cannot get favors when you help. It’s like doing a task without expecting that it would be returned.

Finding friends who genuinely embrace you not only for your strengths, but also allow you to be open and honest about your weaknesses and struggles, is a challenge. Do not be disappointed if you were not able to see them in the near future. As long as there is life and time, they will come. And when that time comes, you will feel very happy and contented that you have true friends to share your moments with. So if you think you had found that true friend, give them a hug and say thank you. You can never tell how meaningful it would be for them to be acknowledged and thanked for.

Looking back, I am glad that I have found my genuine FRIENDS. To Revy, Tina, Jel, Lindley,Jhen,my mom, sister Jho, and Benny. Thank you. Life had made us understand each other, test and binded us closer. I remember a quote “ True friends are found on rough roads not in highways” and would like to share them with you.

Love Love Love

February, the month of hearts. As February 14 is fast approaching, most of us are already preparing what to do on Valentine’s day. The month of showing love to the people that we care; friends, family, kids and to our special someone’s.

Historically, named after Saint Valentine, this is the month of greeting cards, flowers and chocolates. People have the tendency to be more and more inclined of loving as we celebrate love month. I just wonder why love is greater expressed during February? With way things are happening, love should e showed, expressed and showered every day, 24/7. Love is magical yet so powerful. If we just shed hatred and begin to love people around us, peace follows. It’s so saddening with the wars, hate and crisis that is happening around the globe; people don’t love each other anymore. It is easy to say I love you or you love the people around you, easier said than done. We should learn how to love one another and care for each other. Who knows this may be the cure that we are looking for for a brighter tomorrow?

How can we express our love to the people around us?

Kids

Love is not only for adults. It is also for the young generation. Showing love and care would make a great impact in their personality and upbringing. This would help a child to be responsible as they mature. As a starter, let them know what is Valentine’s day and the reason why is it celebrated. Treat them to an ice cream parlor or give them a little gift. Giving gifts is not only done during holiday season, a little surprise might be a trick to your young ones to be more obedient and understanding love.

Teens

Young adults should be more aware of things that is happening around them. Unknowingly, wrong perception of love is one of the reason for early marriage and unwanted pregnancies. Teens needs guidance and understanding what love is, how it can help them in their daily life and how they can utilize it to improve their individuality. A trip to a sports shop or to a parlor would surely have that bonding time with your young adults and you might learn something from them too.

Adults

As mature individuals, we too sometimes think that love is just an expression to show that we care. There is a tendency that we just say it but not really mean it. People think sometimes it is corny if you show love and affection towards others but is not. In fact, people have that inner kindness that is just waiting to come out once properly motivated. I remember my uncle saying that love is unconditional. You would accept one person who he/she is not how he/she is. What they can offer and what they can give. Loving everyone in your life is being brave. Not afraid to show care and love is just not everyone’s cup of tea. A sincere i love you or a simple hug is a special treat. No need for fancy gifts. As long as it comes from the heart, a person would be appreciative to know that they matter and that they are important to your life.

We can never tell when we would not e able to say I love you to that person. Say it everyday, with care and sincerity. It’s never too late to show them that you treasure them as part of your life. Love is everywhere. Love is you and the people around you.

As we prepare for surprises for the hearts day, a cheerful smile and a loving thought matters a lot. Smile to all the people that you see on this day and I assure you, this would bring a feeling of contentment in your heart. Happy Heart’s Day everyone.

How to Fuel His Fire With Love

Love lost is no love at all. Re kindle that feeling of those days of courtships and firsts. It's never too late to say I love you to that special person in your life.

As we go to our daily lives, being busy is one reason why sometimes we forget being romantic. Missing those days when your partner gives you flowers or say i love you in a simple yet meaningful way? I love you is not said in  the same passion like the first time that you met? Loosing that fire and heat of romance. One thing and the only thing that you need to do is keeping the relationship intact. One way is to let our imaginations crawl and excite our mates so that they can look forward into something new. Sometimes couples have this tendency to be bored in a relationship as the day passes because of the routines. Injecting new activities for  you both whether a physical activity or an adventure. This does not mean of outdoors alone, in fact even indoors you would still be able to excite your special someone.

1. Speaking with seductive tone of voice

Talk in a seductive way by telling how much you want your partner, what you’re feeling at that moment, and how, where, and in what way you want to show your undying affection. Try to be sensual and sultry, and not show as a sex-deprived person. This is what makes the dirty talk so interesting for both of you. You’ll more than likely have an idea as to what turns your partner on, so simply paint those images in their mind using your words masterfully.

2. Get visual and become a perfect view to see

Men adore a woman's body, and can receive much stimulation for adoring ever curve and line of your figure. Sometimes we forget how gorgeous our body is when caught in a moment of passion, and find ourselves rushing straight to the lovemaking. Give your man enough time to enjoy the view; your body is the most wonderful thing that your mate had seen. For the women, those muscles are not applicable to all women. How about that masculine post that she liked when she took your picture?  Be creative when you are aiming to arouse your mate visually.

3. Teasing

Use your scent. Chances are that the smell of you was one of the things that drew her to you in the first place. Do you have her favorite cologne on you? A body wash or aftershave that always makes her inhale deeply? Entice her sense of smell by smelling nice, but not overpowering. Women love to be teased, the right way. Try doing things like smelling her neck for a period of time, then pulling away. Even ACT as if you’re about to move to touch her in a sensual caring way, then pull back at the last second. It is like wanting to touch but backing away. In addition, try using the heat by breathing against her skin.

4. Be the chef of your partner

A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Indeed very true. Appeal to your partner's sense of taste. Serve a romantic dinner. Feed your partner with their favorite dessert and say why you prepared that dessert. Compliment the dessert how specially prepared it is. This is a good bet and before the meal is over, it is not only your partner that is aroused but you as well.

Men and women are different in many ways sexually, but both can appreciate their partner that can provide their bodies with contentment or pleasure without the act of sex itself. By pleasing your partner with a series of touching the right spots, kissing the right places, and whispering the dirtiest of things; sex can finally become the best thing that they will be looking forward to everyday, instead of just a daily routine. Arousing your partner needs not only be executed by touching. You can use your other senses too, be it sight, sound, taste or smell. You just need to be creative and sensitive of your partner's wants and desires. You don't have to be a university graduate in order to accomplish this. You just need to be creative, romantic and attentive.